I’ve already written a few posts about relationships
For this post, I’ve decided to do something different. I’ve collaborated with bloggers and they are going to share some pearls of wisdom with you in regards to the single life. The reason why I decided to do this is to let you all know that single life is what you want it to be, not what society says.
I’ve asked each blogger who has contributed to share one ‘DO’ and one ‘DON’T’.
I hope you enjoy this post!
Liv at It’s Not A Trumpet –
DO – Spend more time ‘creating yourself’ by discovering new things, going out with friends, being experimental with your look, taking time to truly know yourself and what you want out of life, then find a person who matches that.
DON’T– Be too clingy with friends who are in relationships just because you’re not not in one. Respect the fact that they need space and time to connect with their other half so don’t get offended or possessive when they decide to spend a little time with their partner rather than you.
Chrissie at Vamp It Up Manchester –
DO – Rather than putting all of your energy into trying to find the right partner, join fun groups and explore hobbies so you are growing and meeting like minded people. They might be one of them!
DON’T – Keep compromising on dates, like a sudden change of destination, or waiting for ages if they are late and uncommunicative or if they aren’t dressed appropriately. What you are (and aren’t) willing to accept on dates pretty much sets the standard for how that person will continue to treat you.
Jan at U Can Crate
DO – Learn to love your body and understand your own sexuality. You know what I mean ladies, explore yourself and get to know what you need.
DON’T – Put up with shit men. If you get bad vibes, get out. Oh and if they treat the waiter badly, bin them off.
Kat at The Creative Wedding Fair –
DO – Find things which make you happy. Rediscover old hobbies, check out new bands, watch those guilty pleasure shows on Netflix, spend time chilling out with friends, take some classes, travel – make amazing memories which centre around yourself. Just because you’re single it doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun, if anything it gives you free reign to go out and find exactly what makes you tick.
DON’T – Feel pressured to find someone else. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single, in fact it’s kind of amazing, so there is no rush to find Mr or Mrs right. But don’t be afraid to date either, it can be a lot of fun meeting new people and seeing what is out there, just keep it light and don’t put too much pressure on settling down. You’ve all the time in the world. Besides, you will know when you’ve found The One.
Jennie at Travel To Recovery –
DO – Travel. I often get told “I cant go travelling because I am single” I am not sure if they are worried about safety or not having support but being single is totally the best time to go travelling you can do what you want when you want with no silly arguments. If still worried about travelling alone hook up with another single friend or even join group travel its amazing. I am actually so glad I am single that I can travel when and where I want.
DON’T – Go on a romantic holiday if you are single.
Charlotte at Memoirs and Musings –
DO – Travel solo.
DON’T – Go back to your ex. It’s like opening a wound and expecting it not to hurt.
Emma at Carpe Diem Emmie –
DO – Cry and eat lots of chocolate!
DON’T – Fall in the bed of another person, it’ll only confuse you.
Clare at The Money Freak
DO – Build up a reliable network of friends to talk to.
DON’T – Think your worth is based on being in a relationship.
Sarah at The S Road
DO – Be selfish and put yourself first. Develop your existing hobbies or start new ones. Go on holiday on your own. Spend loads of time with your friends and family. Enjoy it!
DON’T – Wait for a partner to go on holiday to that amazing destination. It’ll be just as amazing alone! Don’t think your life will magically change with a partner. Don’t listen to anyone else’s opinion about when you should be in a relationship.
Sophie at Wife, Mother, Life –
DO – Travel, don’t hang about, go have that mad adventure you’ve always dreamed of!
DON’T – Settle! Don’t settle for the partner that doesn’t get you, wait. Learn to love yourself and let that become the standard that prospective partners need to surpass.
Victoria at Our Life On Sea –
DO – Surround yourself with good friends so you have someone close to call and talk through things, someone you can pop into for dinner and share your day with.
DON’T – Stay at home alone – join classes, the gym or volunteer.
Cristina at Criddle Me This –
DO – All the things you love. Spend time pampering yourself, enjoying hobbies and getting to know how fabulous you are single again.
DON’T– Look back. It’s so hard but until you realise it’s over, you will never move on.
Annelies at The Frugal Frenchie –
DO – Learn to embrace and love yourself, you don’t need a partner to feel good!.
DON’T – Fall into a relationship where it’s all give and no take. Relationships must be based upon equality otherwise it’ll wear you down, know your worth!.
Luan at A Life Of Lovely –
DO – Spend time exploring new hobbies and enjoy new things.
DON’T – Rush into another relationship. You can be happy single.