Comparison is defined as ‘the act of looking at things to see how they are similar or different. When you think about it, comparisons do play a role in our day to day lives. We are always looking at things, developing perceptions and then acting on them (if need be). In this post, I’m going to be focusing on comparisons from a different angle.
I created a poll on Twitter asking my readers what they wanted the next post on IKS to be and the majority of tweeters voted for this one. As we live in a ‘social media’ age, it doesn’t surprise me at all that most millennials (myself included) can fall under the spell of making comparisons. A wise man once said ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ and they were right. There is honestly no joy to be found when you compare your life to that of another. We have all been created for a reason, we all have a purpose and we all run our own individual races. Nobody’s journey will ever be the same.
Here are some ways that you can stop comparison from stealing your joy.
Understand that you have a choice
It’s easier said than done, but when you are comparing your life to someone else’s or wishing you looked like your favourite influencer on Instagram, you are choosing to deprive yourself of joy. We live in a social media age where everyone wants to brag about their achievements or tell the world that they are ‘living their best lives’ on any given occasion. This is the unfortunate state of our society. Channel your energy into focusing on you. Think about what makes you happy and how you can stay positive.Take a break from social media if that’s the source of your dissatisfaction. Sometimes, if I find myself spending a bit too much time on social media, I’ll write something up for the blog or I’ll listen to some music. I’m also a huge fan of meditation. It’s fantastic for promoting a sense of inner peace and calm. If you like the idea of meditating, check this out.
Focus on you
Sometimes, we spend so much time worrying about what others are doing and saying that we forget to focus on ourselves. It’s O.K to feel like you are stuck in a rut when it comes to certain areas of your development. Instead of trying to keep up with people around you, think about some personal goals you would like to achieve. Is there a course you’d like to do? or Maybe you need to watch a inspirational video or listen to a podcast that relates to your vision? Constant comparisons do rid you of one of the most important elements of being: time. Spend your time on things that are important to your wellbeing.
Gratitude is so important. It is hard to be grateful in a world that is constantly telling us we need more, particularly in the material sense. In times when I need to practice gratitude, I remind myself of how far I have come and what I have achieved. Once I think about the gift of life, I’m reminded to stay present and that what God has for me is for me. Another thing you could do to practice gratitude is to keep a journal. Write down the things you are most grateful for every day. Alternatively, you could write your achievements down on small pieces of paper, keep them in a jar and then look at them as a reminder. As I’m more of a writer, I find it easier to keep a journal. There’s never one fixed way to be grateful, so do what is right for you.
Triggers are ever present and sometimes all it will take is a certain image, post or article to make us feel a certain way. If you are able to identify your own triggers, then try and distance yourself from them. For example, if you know you aren’t in the greatest of moods, you may decide not to use social media for the day. Taking the time out to ensure you are OK is not a crime. Another way to avoid triggers is to develop a routine. Instead of checking your phone first thing in the morning, why not pray or meditate or just simply spend a few minutes planning your day.
Ceasing to compare yourself with others has become one of life’s most difficult challenges. We live in a world where everybody wants to ‘keep up with the Joneses’. In the midst of the madness, always remember to focus on you. If there’s an account you need to unfollow: do it. If you need to take a break from socialising: do it. Your inner peace and happiness is paramount to your wellbeing. Don’t take it for granted.
Lastly, I’d like to add that nobody’s journey will ever be the same. Embrace your lane, slay in it, be thankful for it. There is a reason for your season.
I hope you have enjoyed this post, please feel free to let me know what you think.
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