It’s official! In 2019, we are selfish! AND most importantly, we are not going to feel crappy about it! Self-love and self-care have become two of society’s most supreme sensations. Although this may seem strange (because we should be taking care of ourselves anyway), the agenda of ensuring we all take some ‘me’ time has never been more present. When January draws to an end, there’s an endless array of tweets or posts mentioning Valentine’s Day. There will always be one person that makes a big deal about not having anyone to go out with on Valentine’s Day. This always irks me in a way, because if you’ve been single for a year, what difference does one day make?
After all, Valentine’s Day is a day! Just one day out of 365. I’m not denying that Valentine’s Day can lead people to reminisce about long lost lovers and failed dates. We are all human and we do have moments where we think about the past, however, if you do find yourself single or date-less on Valentine’s Day then I have some news for you…it’s not the end of the world! In this post, I’m going to talk about how you can practice self-love this Valentine’s Day…
- Celebrate your achievements
In a world where everything moves at such a fast pace, it is challenging to be still and appreciate what life has blessed you with. Taking time to think about the good things in your life will instantly improve your mood. Instead of seeking validation from others, give yourself the recognition you truly deserve. When you’ve achieved something pretty amazing, don’t be afraid to celebrate with the people you love and care about. Something I’ve noticed as a millennial, is that once we’ve achieved something great, we tend to move on to the next immediately. Being still and practising gratitude is something we should all never cease to do.
- Take yourself out on a date
Taking yourself out on a date is one of the most underrated experiences there is. Some people embrace it while others ridicule it but there is something peaceful about enjoying your own company. Find a venue, get dressed up and go and enjoy yourself. If the concept of dining alone or going to an event alone is slightly daunting, then start small by going to restaurants for breakfast or on days off work. Just ease yourself into solo experiences. Don’t feel the need to conform to anyone else’s way of doing things. My idea of taking myself out is a night at the movies. I just love to switch off with some popcorn and become consumed with everything I see on the big screen. I also enjoy spa days (one is well overdue).
- Treat yourself
When it comes to treating yourself, everything in moderation is key. Remember, that a treat is meant to make you feel happy! If you had a long week at work and you went home on a Friday night and decided to eat a £1 Galaxy bar, that’s not something you should beat yourself up for. It’s not like you do it every day. Treats should never be associated with guilt, if anything they should ignite a sense of pride and happiness within you. As the new year approached, I decided to treat myself to some cake.
The lovely team at bakerdays sent me this beautiful cake with a very powerful message (which was something I touched on at the beginning of this post). What I liked about this cake in particular is that it was small enough to fit through my letterbox. The packaging oozed elegance and minimalism. As far as the taste is concerned, it was absolutely delicious. Texture wise, it is moist and not as filling as other cakes with icing on them tend to be. Another thing that impressed me was my idea being brought to life so beautifully. As well as being a fantastic treat, the letterbox cake would make a perfect gift. For more information about bakerdays, click here.
- Check in with your feelings
Single people will definitely be in their feelings as Valentine’s Day approaches. This is unavoidable, especially when you think about the fact that many couples will be flaunting their love and surprises for one another. If your desire is to be in a loving relationship one day, own it. The idea of a single man or woman wanting to be coupled up has become so stigmatised for some reason. Checking in with yourself and reminding yourself of what you want will allow you to remain positive and hopeful. From experience, what I’ve learned is that the more you deny love and relationships, the more likely you are to end up in one that doesn’t meet your expectations. On the other hand, if single life is perfect for you at this moment in time, make the most of it.
- Meditate – think positive
Meditation is one of the most valuable forms of self care there is. Taking a few moments to relax, de-stress and set intentions for the day, week etc is such a liberating experience. I have spoken about this in a previous post. I was forced into meditation because I left a very unhealthy relationship and battled with insomnia for months. Meditation was recommended by a therapist I was seeing. First, I started doing sleep meditations and then moved on to others. My chakra is the third eye so I enjoy doing those meditations when I can. The reason why I advocate for meditation so much is because it reminds us to be kind to ourselves and also to send negativity packing. Affirmation based meditations are pretty powerful. One thing I would say is when it comes to meditating, don’t give up if one doesn’t work. Take the time to discover what works for you.
- Make plans
Nurturing the relationship you have with yourself is so important. In order to understand what makes you tick, you need to discover who you really are. It’s only then that you can begin to indulge in things that create passion and excitement in your life. For me, I love anticipation. I enjoy planning things months in advance and becoming filled with excitement as the day draws near. I don’t do thing sporadically at all. There’s a moving rota in my head (as crazy as this may sound). Showing love to yourself may involve booking tickets to a show you’ve always wanted to see or booking a holiday or a city break. Give yourself something to look forward to. Has anyone had one of those moments where you’ve thought to yourself ‘ I have really had enough today’ and then you remind yourself that you’ll be out of the country in less than 7 days? Priceless.
Again, this was quite a long post, so thank you for staying with me and I hope you enjoyed reading it.
What will you be doing for Valentine’s Day this year?
If you are single, how do you plan to practice self-love? I’d love to hear some of your own tips, so do leave a comment below.
Please note: Bakerdays sent me the cake to review on IKS. I am not affiliated with the brand and all views are my own.