Is Surgery Right or Wrong? You Decide

In this post, I’m exploring cosmetic surgery from a different perspective. In the past few weeks, surgery has become a point of discussion on many online platforms such as The Receipts Podcast and most recently on the online talk show, Heels Off. For many, cosmetic surgery is seen as ‘ the right to beauty’. In the mind of (most) women, if something isn’t as it ‘should be’, it needs to be fixed straight away…
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One form of cosmetic surgery that’s gained a massive amount of attention and criticism are BBL’s (Brazilian Butt Lifts). For those of you who don’t know, a BBL involves shaping the buttocks with fat that is obtained by liposucting it from other parts of the body. If you’ve ever scrolled through your Instagram feed and wondered why your favourite influencer has a very large bum that isn’t in proportion with the rest of her body, then the chances are that she may have had a BBL. Did you also know that many medical professionals have issued warnings to women, due to the complications that can arise from having this procedure?
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The dangers of cosmetic surgery are not discussed as much as the ‘highlights’ or reveals. When a woman decides to go under the knife, she is playing Russian Roulette with her existence. Once you’re on that table, that’s it. If anything goes wrong, your life could be at risk. As this is such a sensitive topic, I didn’t want to address it alone so I have teamed up with Shelley from By Busby for this debate…
Question: Is surgery wrong?
Kelle from Its Kelle’s Space says: YES
The pressure to look attractive all of the time is one of the hardest parts of being a woman. On top of the pressure we already feel, society and the media are constantly feeding us with images of women who appear to be pinnacles of perfection. The truth is that perfection doesn’t exist! You will never be happy if you are constantly chasing perfection. What has made women (young and old) hate their bodies so much that they are prepared to spend a fortune and risk their lives just to look good?!
Of course when you think about individuals who have been victims of terrible crimes, they are likely to need plastic surgery in order to correct or conceal the damage that was inflicted upon them. This is expected because their ordeal will undoubtedly change their lives forever and they deserve some normality. Now, let’s move on to the twenty five year old woman who one day wakes up and decides she wants to look like a Kardashian (or another famous person she admires) but she’s already quite attractive but has somehow got it into her head that she needs a thinner nose and plumper lips.
Would you encourage this woman to have surgery? Think about it…
Since the rise of social media, the demand for influencers has never been more present than it is now. There is a constant obsession with image and not just for women who want to alter their appearance. We’ve all subjected ourselves to that internal ten minute chat, questioning whether we should post a certain picture or video online. Society has played its part in conditioning many women (and even men) to believe that there is power in perfection! Little do we embrace the fact that people only show us what they want us to see on social media.
Also, as a woman of faith, who is spiritual, I choose self-improvement over potential self destruction. If I don’t like something about myself, I take action. If I don’t like the way my skin looks, I’ll get a facial or if I want to be more active, I will go to the gym. My biggest qualm regarding cosmetic surgery is that once you’ve had one procedure, the likelihood you will continue is very strong. The constant desire for change is like an element of dissatisfaction placing itself in a person’s mind, body and soul, which can potentially prove to be toxic.
As millennial women, we should be encouraging and promoting body positivity. We should advocate for the women who aren’t being told that they are beautiful as they are. Confidence issues are no stranger to the modern woman. Self-love is a stone throw away, while comparisons and idolisation turn up at our doors on any given opportunity. Why do we pride ourselves on emotions and feelings that steal our joy but turn our backs on the ones that can bring us peace? As well as having many psychological and emotional implications, surgery will not fix whatever emotions you may be experiencing within. It’s a brief vanity fix (or a partial solution if you will) induced with temporary pleasure.
No amount of surgery will ever change the way you feel about yourself. Unfortunately, many medical professionals take pride in making people feel inadequate. The surgery industry is worth billions, and doctors are taking advantage of this. Your body does not define you so instead of obsessing over how you look on the outside, focus on what’s happening on the inside.
Shelley from By Busby says: NO
As someone who’s had cosmetic surgery in the past for no reason other than wanting it for myself I can strongly say I am for cosmetic surgery, however, that doesn’t mean I condone cosmetic companies such as Mya or Transform advertising to young people in order to pressurise them into changing their appearance. Cosmetic surgery should be an option for anyone who feels comfortable enough to go under the knife.
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In today’s society, we are constantly pressurised to strive for perfection. Men & women in the spotlight are always judged by what they look like before anything else and with what has been dubbed as the ‘Kardashian look’ being more prominent than ever, I can totally understand why we live in a world where the cosmetic surgery industry is booming. On the other hand we can’t just blame celebrity culture and school yard bullies for the rise of cosmetic surgery. People don’t just get surgery because they want to look like the next hit celebrity or to change something they have been told isn’t perfect.
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Did I consider a boob enlargement because of what other people thought? No
Did I get a boob enlargement because of what I wanted? Yes
Maybe in the past I wasn’t totally happy with who I was or what I looked like but I was a teenage girl full of hormones & lacking in one department. But as I grew into a woman, I learnt to love myself and like the way I looked. If we are truly blaming cosmetic surgery on a strive to make ourselves feel better by changing our outside appearance, well I wouldn’t have had surgery. When I booked my surgery, I was totally happy with what I looked like and I know that sounds completely crazy even though I did embrace my itty bitties but I still wanted to go ahead with it. I love myself now just like I loved myself then. Now I just have to buy a bigger bra & I can wear a wider range of clothing options.
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Not every person who opts to have surgery is on the path to self destruction. People might have one nose job to help them breathe better or just to remove that bump they don’t want. That’s not destructive in anyway. Yes, cosmetic surgery can be a slippery slope as shows such as Botched prove. To label cosmetic surgery as ‘self-destructive’ is a stretch as some people just want to change or improve a minor thing. Even a woman who strives to have ‘world record’ kind of boobs is entitled to feel that way. Surgeons shouldn’t fulfil such dreams (of course) but everyone has the power to make choices.
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Body positivity doesn’t only cover loving who you are right now. It means promoting a healthy sense of self. Allowing women and men to make choices that suit them. Maybe some people aren’t right for surgery because they need to fix the issues inside but not everyone who has surgery has some dark inner turmoil. Nothing stops people who have had cosmetic surgery from promoting ‘body positivity’ too. I agree that no amount of surgery will the change the way you feel about yourself but if you have thought it through and you are able to make an informed decision, then there’s no reason to feel guilty. Do what makes you happy.
Ultimately, the choice to have cosmetic surgery is in the hands of the individual making the decision to alter their appearance. With the rise in surgery related deaths, the risks of cosmetic surgery have been highlighted by the media and many medical professionals. In spite of this, cosmetic surgery is becoming more popular for modern people. If you are thinking about going under the knife, think long and hard about the reasons why. The compulsion to change one’s body can be a sign of mental instability. Take some time and don’t rush into anything that you may later regret.
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Are you thinking about having cosmetic surgery? Or perhaps you know someone who is or has ? What are your thoughts on surgery as a whole, are you for or against it and why?
As always, I love to hear from you all so let me know what you think of this post by leaving a comment. It has been a lengthy one, so thank you if you read it all. Plus, don’t forget to like and subscribe so you are first to know whenever there is a new post on the blog.
I’d like to say a huge thank you to Shelley from By Busby for teaming up with me for this debate post. Do give her blog a follow.
Kel xo

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  • D.Watkins
    February 10, 2019

    I really enjoyed reading this and emphasis you out on loving yourself and not chasing perfection. I always find a hard time understanding why people resort to surgery. Majority of it I’m sure has to do with the pressure of looking a certain way and being a certain size in the industry. I would think that only leads to bigger self esteem issues simply because you can not be yourself. Instead you’re forced by others not to accept yourself based upon the picture “society” paints for women. I can on and on lol. Great pointers throughout 👍👍

    • Its Kelle's Space
      February 10, 2019

      Thank you so much for your comment.
      I can’t understand it either to be honest – my belief is that some women put themselves under so much pressure to be perfect.
      It can be hard to love yourself at times but surgery just isn’t the answer, in my opinion.
      Thank you for reading the post ☺️

  • mydreamality
    February 13, 2019

    Hey Kel, I really enjoyed reading this post. I’m actually having surgery next week but it’s medical not cosmetic. I’ll be going under for the first time and I’m quite scared. Why people want to go under for beauty reasons alone is beyond me!

    • Its Kelle's Space
      February 13, 2019

      Hey, thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed reading the post. All the best with your surgery next week 🙏🏾. I can’t understand why people want to go under the knife for the sake of beauty too!

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