Hi guys! It’s been almost three weeks since my last blog post and I want to let you know why…
After much reflection, I’ve decided to start blogging a little less so that I can focus on the things I want to achieve in 2021. As some of you know, I’ve been writing for digital publications for almost two years now (I started off with lesser-known publications such as Freelancer Club and The Biographies and then started writing for POPSUGAR, Brown Beauty Talk etc.) and this is something I would like to continue doing a lot more of. It was quite hard to come to this decision because as far as I’m concerned, this is the first and best platform I have ever had but I want to elevate my writing skills and see what’s out there for me. I want my work to grace even more major digital publications, maybe even print (who knows what the future holds), so I’ll be blogging sporadically for the time being. I’m not sure how long this will be for, but you’ll still get content from me and I’ll still continue to engage with you all on social media, so if you’re not following me on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Pinterest, please do.
A lot has been happening this month and some of you may know that I’ll be turning 31 in a few weeks, so the plan is to take a break from blogging in June and return in July, so I’ve decided to do a round up of 10 of my favourite blog posts of all time. Expect to see collaboration posts, one or two Travel Tales and the odd opinion piece…
I can’t help but sigh a little when someone says that they don’t have another talking stage left in them. This post was written when I decided I’d had enough of people undermining the importance of having a talking stage when they get to know someone. I know that there are people who string others along, which may mean that they spend longer in a talking stage than they would have had in mind but talking stages are important because they give you the space and time that you need to discern. I also think a big part of dating is discernment, so being able to tell apart the good from the bad and making decisions with your wellbeing in mind and this is why I think a lot of millennials are struggling with dating and relationships. So I definitely recommend giving this post a read if this is a topic of interest.
In the summer of 2018, I was fed up with failed travel plans, so I decided to hop on the Eurostar alone and go to Paris. Everyone was telling me that I couldn’t travel alone but my desire to see another city and be exposed to a different culture and way of life for a few days was stronger. Although I was scared (because this was my first time travelling alone), all fear went away as soon as I arrived. I stayed in a really nice hotel just outside of Paris. It was in the suburbs and it just felt so peaceful, which made my trips to the centre of the city even more intriguing. Summers in Paris are elite. One afternoon after visiting The Louvre, I remember going to a restaurant, sitting outside and just people watching. I wanted to take everything in. Like London, Paris is a busy city but I think it has a bit more appeal in my opinion. I can’t wait to go to Paris again. I really want to go to Belleville the next time I go. If you are thinking of going to Paris when Covid-19 bids us a much needed farewell, then do give the post a read.
Those of you who read the blog regularly will know that I turned 30 last year. Turning 30 was such an eye-opening experience. Even as I approached my late 20’s, I really wanted to take my life into my own hands and be my own person. I had spent a lot of my 20’s trying to make everyone else happy and as a result, I was tired, drained and very depressed. Something else I’ve been really open about on this blog is my single status. I have been single for five years now. I have dated and talked to people but nothing has developed. Being single for as long as I have has given me the chance to think about what I learned about love, sex and relationships in my 20’s. I wanted to share these lessons with you all because I knew that there would be someone out there who would relate. To encourage you to give this post a read, here’s one love, sex and relationship lesson:
Don’t let a bad experience or heartbreak change the way you love
If someone doesn’t respect you but still expects to have access to your body, don’t sleep with them.
Before you get into a relationship, make sure you are happy with your partner as they are. If you can’t accept them, let them go.
I’ve chosen this post because over the past year, I read quite a bit about feminine energy and the knowledge I gained has allowed me to reflect on my relationship with feminine energy. In this post, I talk about my journey as well as my own personal understanding of feminine energy. There are a lot of experts on this particular subject online and something that didn’t sit well with me is that a few of them were encouraging women to be more feminine in order to gain the attention of the man they like. Women shouldn’t embrace feminine energy because it will get them a man, they should embrace it because it will give them the balance that they need in their lives. Also, both sexes need a balance of masculine and feminine energy in their lives in order to have better relationships with themselves and others. By reading about feminine energy, I was able to determine that I exhibited more masculine energy (more authoritative, always doing something etc), so in this post I share a few tips on how I have learned to tap into my feminine energy to create some balance in my life.
There’s still a lot of stigma in the black community surrounding mental health issues. So to mark the beginning of Black History Month last year (2020), I joined forces with Jenna from Jenna’s Worldview to talk about our own relationship with mental health as black women growing up in African and Caribbean homes. As a result of the Covid-19 pandemic, there is a mental health crisis happening at the moment so I think it’s really important to be open about your experiences with mental health whatever they may be. I also think that checking in with yourself as and when you can is important too. The stigma surrounding mental health can’t be reduced if we aren’t self-aware. Of course this post was written from the perspective of two black women, but whatever your race, if you are struggling with your mental health (particularly during these unprecedented times we are living in), don’t suffer in silence. Do seek help.
There isn’t much to say about this post, but as I mentioned before, I’ve been really open about my life experiences with you all and writing a letter to my younger self was my way of taking my self-discovery journey to a whole new level. I felt like I was able to acknowledge all of the difficulties I had endured in life as well as how they’ve molded me into the woman that I am today. It can be so easy to run from our pasts, especially when we’ve been through some ish in our younger years but using it to reflect before you move forward can help a great deal. I’d definitely recommend writing a letter to your younger self. It doesn’t have to be long and it shouldn’t feel forced. Just tell your younger self what you feel they should know.
This was a hard post to write because I don’t think I’d spoken this openly about growing up in a single parent home and the impact that having an absent father had on my life. It took a lot of thought and self-reflection to share my truth and also advise other women whose fathers aren’t in their lives as well. I don’t think there’s anything anyone can say or do to heal the pain and dysfunction absent fathers cause their children. Through the years, I had to work on how to deal with mine (because nobody told me how to) because on reflection, I was conditioned to believe that the ‘get over it’ approach was the best way and it wasn’t. As the child of an absent parent, I think it’s important to look within, stop blaming yourself and make peace with your situation. Something else to remember is that the three things I’ve just mentioned do not happen overnight. If anyone is trying to rush your process, that’s a reflection of them and not you.
I miss going to beauty events just as much as any other beauty junkie out there so I couldn’t do a round up without mentioning a beauty post. Back in 2019, I went to Melanin Beauty Live, a beauty event which took place at W Hotel in Leicester Square. At the event, some of the most skilled and knowledgeable women of colour in the beauty industry shared their expertise via a series of talks. After each talk had taken place, guests were given the opportunity to ask questions. As I was listening to each expert speak, I realised how many misconceptions I had in relation to skin and black skin, for example, I was always under the impression that skipping moisturiser would make my oily/combination skin less oily. One expert (who I think was a journalist) was talking about toner and why they should be ditched, which I don’t really agree with anymore. In the past few months, I’ve decided to re-introduce toner into my beauty routine as I find it’s really effective at getting rid of dirt and giving my skin a natural glow. Also, when it comes to oily skin, less dirt = less breakouts. So if you want a few beauty tips, do give this post a read.
In the past, I wasn’t the kind of person who asked themselves why they did certain things but I was looking for blog post prompts one day and I came across the question ‘Why Did You Start Blogging?’ and I thought it would make for a great read. I’ve been blogging on/off for 11 years and I’ve learned so much about myself and the blogosphere (as I call it) in that time. I love to write and blogging was just another way for me to share my thoughts with an audience. I remember having doubts a few years ago as to whether blogging is still relevant, but I think it is. I think that it is possible in this social media age to read a blog and feel informed. So, if you want to know why I decided to start blogging and what made me launch Kelle’s Space (which is actually my second blog), do give the post a read.
I just love all things makeup and skincare, so talking about what’s in my makeup bag was a no brainer. In the post, I also share a picture of a full makeup look. I started wearing makeup when I was around 16 and it wasn’t for the right reasons. When I was at school, I got picked on a lot for my looks so I thought that wearing makeup would make me look prettier so that the bullies would stop. Through the years, I’ve learned how to express myself through makeup while also being aware that my skin is the most important base I will have. Although I love makeup, wearing it taught me to take more care of my skin and I’ll be really grateful for that. A lot of the products I use are ones that I’ve been using for years such as Estee Lauder’s Double Wear. So, if you want to know which makeup products I love and get a few tips as well, give this post a read.
I hope you enjoyed my round up. There are over 150 posts on the blog so trying to find ten of my favourites was challenging but fun. As mentioned, I will be blogging sporadically over the next few months, maybe even longer. Do follow me on social media and let me know in the comments what your favourite post is xo