In the latest of my posts about online dating, I’m talking do’s and don’ts. The most important thing about online dating is making sure you have the best experience. Stick to your guns, expect rejection (once in a while) and just be yourself!
DON’T do anything you are not comfortable with!
I can’t stress how important it is to look after yourself while you date. If you are put in any situations or are made to feel uncomfortable at any point, do go home or get yourself to a safe place. This is just obligatory. One of the things that millennials fail to do when they are out on dates is observe. While you observe, ask yourself these questions:
Am I safe?
Am I happy in the presence of this person?
Am I comfortable?
If you aren’t 100% sure about a date, you can decline the offer. This culture of going on dates just for the sake of it is detrimental. Listen to your gut instinct and trust that it will lead you down the right path.
DO have an open mind
When I started dating after my breakup, I was completely and utterly clueless. I didn’t know what I wanted but I did know what I didn’t want if that makes sense. Having standards and expectations make navigating through the world of dating so much easier but have an open mind too. For example, don’t turn a blind eye to someone who is into art just because you are not. Dating is all about learning from the people you interact with so don’t be afraid of new experiences.
DO get to know the person you are dating
Whenever I scroll through my Twitter feed and see a horror story about a date gone wrong, I shake my head (Am I the only one who does this?). A girl (or sometimes even a guy) will talk about the run up to their date and all you can see is sign after sign. I’ve said this in many other posts and I will continue to say it now: Communication is key! Without it, there’s absolutely no chance of anything happening. This is for the ladies mainly. If he’s shown interest in you yet barely talks to you, then he’s not into you. Look out for one-type communicators as well, the kind that will bombard you with texts and can’t even spare 15 minutes for a call. Face to face and over the phone interactions play a huge part in all our lives. Some of our livelihoods depend on it so never, ever, ever settle for a poor communicator. Address the issue (if you feel you want to) and if things still don’t change, utilise the block and delete functions.
DON’T talk about your ex
Most females can relate to having end a date prematurely or cancelling a next one because all the guy did was talk about his ex. If you’re not over your ex, you shouldn’t be dating. Personally, I’m not an advocate of rebound relationships but this is not to say that they are unacceptable. Talking about an ex while you are on a date with a potential bae really isn’t the way forward. When it comes to exes, there may be a brief question such as ‘How long did your last relationship last? Or why did it end?’ Keep the responses short and simple. However, if exes do come up, don’t dodge the question, just be transparent. Also, if an ex is being slammed or insulted by whoever you are on a date with, run for the hills!
There will most likely be a part two to this post so do let me know if there’s anything specific you’d like to read on the blog in regards to online dating. As always, I love to hear from you, so do leave a comment and don’t forget to like and subscribe. In the meantime, check out this wiltshire dating site for more information about online dating.