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Timeless Skincare Tips

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In this post, I’m going to be talking about skincare, with a specific focus on the things that have really helped me improve the condition of my skin. Clearing up my skin has been a work in progress and as mentioned in my last post, my biggest skin concern is hyper pigmentation. 

Here are some of the things I do in order to keep my skin clear…

Cleanse, tone, moisturise – On a day to day basis our skin goes through so much so this is very important (especially if you wear makeup). Cleansers remove dirt and oil from the skin which significantly reduce your chances of getting spots, blemishes and blackheads. Toning the skin leaves it hydrated and also minimises the appearance of pores. People with oily skin (such as myself) are advised to use a toner due to the fact that their pores may be larger in size. Some toners contain harsh ingredients so be sure to do your research if you choose to invest in one. Moisturising stops your skin from getting irritated and flaky. It also boosts the skin’s hydration levels and slows down the ageing process.

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Drink water – Yes, yes, yes we heard this almost every time in 2017 whenever someone was asked what their secret was but it has been scientifically proven that drinking water has many skin benefits such as improving your complexion and making you look younger.  

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I drink two bottles of water a day. This is equivalent to about three glasses. Recently, I’ve started to drink three bottles of water a day. I do want to improve on this and start drinking the daily requirement, which is eight glasses but either way, I’m seeing a real change in the way my skin looks.

You are what you eat – I also eat foods that are proven to clear skin such as leafy greens. I love broccoli and kale in particular (I always try and have a serving of vegetables with my meals). I also love oily fish such as salmon and mackerel and my favourite fruits are raspberries and blueberries. I ate raspberries so much last summer and I noticed a few weeks later that my skin had a nice glow to it.

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Introduce an oil or serum into your skin care routine – even if you’re naturally blessed with good skin, I do recommend introducing a serum or oil into your routine. Palmer’s Skin Therapy Oil is my go to face oil. It is pricey at £10.49 but the oil contains a powerful blend of ten essential oils including Vitamin C and Retinol.

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Moderate consumption of salty and oily foods – This is something I struggle with, I will be completely honest with you. I’m from Cameroon, West Africa and I’m sure other Africans will be able to relate to this. Whether it’s dishes such as Egusi or Eru (A Cameroonian dish), salt and oil are always involved (the positives of both being that they have vegetable in them). In addition to this, I try to stay away from chips, burgers and all that stuff. I don’t follow the 5:2 diet or anything like that, I just watch what I eat, that’s all.

When you moisturise, pay attention to the area under your eyes – Especially if you wear makeup. The skin around this area is thinner and shows signs of aging more quickly than other areas on the face.

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Exfoliate – minimum of twice a week – I exfoliate three-four times a week. A lot of women are under the perception that exfoliating is something you do after you’ve showered but you can actually add a little bit of your scrub to your shower gel/body wash and that still counts. I’m currently using a body scrub from Palmer’s to exfoliate my skin. 

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I try not to stress which is really hard because I work in the education sector. Every day is stressful. To prevent environmental havoc on my skin, I do a facial once or twice a week. If I don’t use Indian Healing Facial Clay, I use my Purifying Neem Mask.

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I want to show you guys a before and after picture of my skin. The picture on the left was taken in 2014 and the second picture was taken earlier this year. It’s clear to see the difference in my complexion in comparison to the picture on the right. I was just using any products I could find, not ones that were actually suited to my skin type.

I hope this post has inspired you to think about your skincare journey and also the kind of products that you use or would like to use on your skin.

I’m always interested in hearing your views/opinions so feel free to comment.

Also, do let me know what you’d like to see more of on I.K.S in 2018.

Kel xo

 

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My Skincare Routine (2018)

Hi everyone, 

First of all, Happy New Year! I hope 2018 brings you everything you want and more.

Yesterday, I wrote about my hopes, dreams and vows for 2018, check it out.

In my first post of 2018, I’m going to be sharing my skin care routine with you all. Over the past year, I have noticed that my skin has dramatically improved. The most challenging skin issue I have is hyper pigmentation. I have the most stubborn dark spots but on a positive note, with the help of the products I am currently using, my skin has started to clear up.

In addition to my desire for clearer skin, I also want it to look healthy, bright and firm throughout 2018 (claiming this!)

My Skincare Routine

When I’ve had my shower in the morning, I wash my face with Dudu Osun African Black Soap.

I’ve been using this soap to cleanse my face for about three months now and I absolutely love it. My skin looks a lot clearer and I’ve noticed that my skin isn’t as oily as it used to be which is always a good thing!

Three to four times a week, I exfoliate. The scrub that I use is the St Ives Even and Bright Pink Lemon and Mandarin Orange Scrub.

There’s a page on Twitter called Melanin Mamis and they have an amazing skin care and hair care thread and this scrub kept being mentioned by a number of tweeters so I decided to read some reviews and give it a try. My skin is softer and brighter and I also like that its made with 100% natural exfoliants so it doesn’t feel too tough like some other brand’s exfoliators do.

After I’ve exfoliated, I use a flannel to pat my face dry. Once or twice a week, I will apply my Himalaya Herbals Purifying Neem Mask. It’s perfect for normal to oily skin and you only need to leave it on for 10 minutes. You do feel a tightening effect but don’t worry, that’s just your pores shrinking. There is also a scrub in the range that’s quite good as well and both products contain Turmeric, which is known for its skin healing properties.

I use a cotton pad to tone my skin with Thayers Witch Hazel Rose Petal Alcohol Free Toner. Whenever I apply this toner, my skin feels soft and looks refreshed. I’ll be the first to admit that for a toner, it is quite pricey but all you really need is a pea sized amount (a little bit goes a long way, trust me). Mine has lasted for over 5 months which is pretty impressive. Another thing that I love about this toner is it does a fantastic job at getting rid of dirt on the skin. If you are looking for a toner to invest in, I definitely recommend this one.

Once my skin is toned, I moisturise. There’s a brand by the name of Irie Rock and they create products specifically for women with oily/combination skin. The Tea Tree and Witch Hazel Replenishing Facial Moisturizer is free from parabens, mineral oils and artificial fragrances. With oily skin, its important to use a moisturiser that is as light as possible as too many ingredients applied at once can provoke the production of sebum (what causes shine). 

One skin care lesson I have learnt this year is: always use a serum. Simply cleansing, toning and moisturising is not enough (even if you have been blessed with amazing skin). Serums deliver many anti aging skin benefits and ensure your skin glows all year round. I’d recommend a serum with any of these two ingredients: Vitamin C and Vitamin E. These Vitamins are your skin’s best friend. I live for Palmer’s Skin Therapy Face Oil

Within weeks, my complexion had started to improve and when I told people my actual age, no-one could believe me. The serum is definitely responsible for this because I’ve always been told I looked older than my years.

I’ll apply two drops of lemon oil on my face, ensuring it absorbed into my skin as this helps to prevent your skin getting shiny throughout the day. I talk more about the amazing benefits of lemon oil in this post.

I have the same routine for the evening when I get ready for bed. The only thing that is different is that I apply Liquid Vitamin on my lips (not pictured) to keep them soft and moisturised.

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This skin care routine has really worked for me this past year. In the past, I’ve always followed the crowd when it came to buying particular products but I’m proud to say that I’ve found products that I think work well for me and the needs of my skin.

I hope you have enjoyed the first post of 2018. All links to products are in the post.

Let me know what you think and also feel free to share your skin care routine.

Kel xo 

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2018 Is Almost Here!

Wow!

I can’t believe that 2017 is almost over! 

This year has literally flown by. I’m looking forward to what 2018 has to offer. 

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When the end of a year approaches, it’s natural to go into reflection mode. I’ve been reflecting in my head over the past few hours, just thinking about where I was at the beginning of the year and where I am now. I can honestly say thank the Lord that I am not where I used to be. God has come through for me in so many ways. I’m thankful for my gains and I’m also thankful for my losses. Millennials definitely experience a difficult time taking and accepting L’s (losses). I like to think that each L teaches me something about myself and how I can turn that negative into a positive.

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As for the things I would like to achieve in 2018, I have given myself 5 personal goals. I’m not going to share them as of yet but I am excited to do what needs to be done in order to succeed. Last year, I had way too many goals but for this coming year, I’ve taken a realistic approach. I’m aiming to have small goals with a magnificent impact.

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In 2018, I vow to:

  • Be disciplined
  • Continue to work hard in my profession
  • Love myself and practice self care on a regular basis
  • Take time out and not feel guilty for doing so
  • Build personal relationships (friends, family etc)
  • Immediately turn my back on any situation that doesn’t honour or serve me
  • Increase my dopeness
  • Secure the bag
  • Travel more
  • Smile!

I’m coming for everything that’s mine in 2018.

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I’d like to take this opportunity to wish all It’s Kelle’s Space readers a Happy New Year. Thank you so much for your support. 

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May 2018 be everything you want it to be and more.

Do you have any 2018 vows? 

What are you going to do to ensure it’s your best year yet? 

Kel xo

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Cohabition: Things To Consider

Hey guys,

So, cohabitation is something that I have always wanted to discuss. For those of you who want it defined in layman’s terms, cohabitation is when two people, who are not married, live together and have a sexual relationship (with the exception of couples who are practising celibacy of course).

I cohabited for a very brief period and during this time I learnt so much about myself (good and let’s say, areas for improvement). It is true what they say by the way, you never know someone until you live with them and I should also add that you never know yourself until you are responsible for the upkeep and care of yourself and your partner too.

If you are thinking about cohabiting, especially if you are courting, here are my words of wisdom…

  • Be ready – If your relationship isn’t healthy, mutually respectful and fulfilling, DO NOT live together. Take it from me, when more responsibilities are thrown into the mix  and the relationship isn’t stable, it will push the two of you further apart a lot quicker. Don’t adopt the mindset of ‘If I do this, maybe he’ll’ or If I did this more, maybe she’ll’. Accept all situations for what they are. I think this is one of the biggest problems we have as millennials, some of our relationships last a lot longer than they should because of this instant desire for commitment. 

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  • Enjoy your relationship beforehand – I have heard countless stories about couples who cohabit way too early into their relationship and have so many problems soon after. The first year of a relationship should be all about getting to know one another, sharing experiences, allowing your partner into your world, building a beautiful bond. You shouldn’t need to be worrying about rent and bills and who’s going to do the food shopping on a weekly basis. In my personal opinion, I don’t think that a major commitment should be made within the first year of a relationship. I guess some people would disagree because of the ‘Why wait when you know?’ ideology (fair enough).

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  • Find a medium – always ensure you are able to return to your happy place after a disagreement. The worst thing a cohabiting couple can do is refuse to let things go. Can you imagine coming home to someone who can’t let Tuesday’s minor argument go and its Friday already? All I’m simply saying is when you live with somebody, you have to pick your battles. Yes, you will argue at times, it’s inevitable but know which arguments to talk out and which ones to let go.

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  • Honesty IS the best policy – do you share the same values, hopes etc for the future? This is SO important and it’s only through getting to know your partner and spending quality time with them that you will gain an understanding of their values, hopes, dreams. Don’t be afraid to be open and don’t go along with things you’re not 100% about just to make your partner happy. In the moment, it may seem fine but other time, you may realise that you didn’t stay true to yourself and resentment may start to kick in.

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  • Can you honestly imagine spending your life with your partner? – Some young couples don’t realise that cohabitation is a test. It’s a test of what life would be like if you were a married couple. I think that some couples move in with each other and just adopt an ‘I’ll see how this goes’ approach. Personally, I think this is wrong. If you can’t cohabit successfully, then your chances of having a happy marriage will significantly reduce. On the other hand, if you are able to pinpoint and address the reasons why living together is such a challenge, then you may be able to move forward.

In order to successfully cohabit with the person you love, you have to be ready. There is no question about it. Take time to really understand what you are getting into and don’t be afraid to share your hopes and expectations. Remember that this is a new experience for the both of you and be patient, understanding and loving. To transition from having your own space to sharing it with someone else 24/7 can be daunting but if you have chosen the right person to settle down with, the benefits far outweigh the cons.

I hope you enjoyed this post. Let me know what you think about cohabiting with a partner. Is it something you’ve done? Is it something you want to do in 2018? 

Kel xo

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2017: My Year In Review

Hi guys,

In this post, I am going to be reviewing my 2017. I’ve decided to do a Q and A style post as I feel that this year has been quite reflective so I really want to talk in detail about how I found 2017 in addition to sharing my plans, goals and hopes for 2018.

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If you had to describe your 2017 in three words, what would they be?

Reflective, Powerful, Refreshing

I’ve chosen these words because at the beginning of the year, I was in a very bad place. I was struggling emotionally and mentally with the breakdown of my long term relationship. As I thought about the fact that I am fast approaching the end of my 20’s, I really had to take the time to get to know myself again and be 100% transparent about what I expect from individuals, and not just individuals that I am involved with. It’s funny how one less than pleasant situation can suddenly make you evaluate every situation you give your energy too in life.

I definitely feel like this is the year when I gained my power back. I was able to establish myself as a professional, spend time focusing on self care, having fun with friends, travelling, just really trying to get back to myself again and I have loved every single minute of it. I’ve adopted a ‘make it through the day’ mantra and I try not to be too hard on myself because life is so short.

Through power, comes freedom. You gain a sense of self and you own it and that’s what I’ve started to do. The journey hasn’t always been smooth but once you know yourself, the sky is the limit. You feel invincible almost. I definitely have meditation to thank for this and in 2018, I will be challenging myself to meditate more (check out my post on meditation here)

What was your favourite place that you visited in 2017?

Definitely, Amsterdam! I absolutely loved ‘Dam! Whenever I travel to Europe, I never want to leave because the people are so relaxed, so calm, it’s so wonderful. I went to Amsterdam in October for a few days and I saw so many places. I wish I actually took pictures of the places I went to and the restaurants I ate in (it would have made a good post) but anyway travelling is something I definitely aspire to do more of in 2018 so watch this space!

If someone wrote a book about your year, what genre would it be?

Something along the lines of coming of age/self discovery. 2017 has been a whirlwind for me.

How did your overall outlook on life evolve?

Wow, this is a good question. From 2014-2016, I think I was very naive. I chose to see the good in everybody and everything. Life was a bunch of beautifully arranged roses as far as I was concerned but when I started to experience challenging times, my outlook on everything changed. I wasn’t sure why certain things were happening to me but now I realise that I needed that because I needed to make a swift exit from the bubble I was living very comfortably in. I believe that everyone has one life experience that will shake them and for me, losing somebody that I cared for deeply and relied so much on was it.

I think that the key to living your best life and being your best self is just to be happy…try your best to be happy. Be happy with who you are, be happy with what you have to offer and slowly, things should fall into place.

Never spend too long feeling like you are not enough. You are.

What new habits did you cultivate?

This year, I really enjoyed exercising and I did go to the gym as much as I could, but because of the demands of my career, I barely got the chance to go in the later part of the year. However, I do a home workout using my kettlebell. I love that post workout feeling and maintaining my weight is quite important to me (because I don’t have time to be buying a new wardrobe sorry).

I also learned how to take care of my natural hair. Most of the time, I wear wigs or I have a protective style in my hair but I’ve actually a adopted a haircare routine and it seems to be working because even my hairdresser said my hair has grown.

I’ve improved my culinary skills. Maybe one or two recipes will be posted in 2018. Watch Kelle’s Space.

A new habit I have formed is writing to do lists. Even when I’m at home, I will do one. I suffer from anxiety so sometimes (as anyone with anxiety knows), going through twenty things that you need to do in your head at 3000 miles per hour can cause such a headache. If I know I have a productive day ahead of me, a list is getting made and I’m ticking it off as I complete each task. This gives me the peace of mind I need.

What cool things did you create this year?

It’s Kelle’s Space!

I’m so glad that I was able to get back into blogging again. I was on Twitter one day and I found myself just tweeting about anything and everything and I thought to myself ‘ You’ve still got a lot to say Kel, start blogging again’. So I did. What I need to do next year is create a lovely backdrop so I can start filming videos and possibly move this brand to YT as well.

2017 was full of ups and it was full of downs but I’m pleased that I am still here. I’ve smiled, I’ve laughed, I’ve cried, I’ve experienced all sorts of emotions but they have all made me the woman that I am and I know that everything I experience (good or bad) will help me become the woman I am meant to be.

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I hope you have enjoyed this post and feel free to share your 2017 moments with me.

I’d love to read them.

I will share my 2018 hopes with you very soon.

Kel xo

 

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5 Reasons to Meditate

In this post, I’m going to be talking about the importance of meditation.

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I came across the practice of meditation around a year and a half ago.

Since then, I have tried my best to meditate at least twice a week. As we approach a new year, one of my resolutions is definitely to meditate a lot more than I usually do. I like to use the free guided meditations on this website. I find myself meditating usually before I go to bed because it usually takes some time for me to fall asleep (there are usually a million things going through my mind as I prepare for sleep).

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Personally, I find meditation to be quite a liberating experience. When I meditate in the morning, it sets me up for the day and I’m able to maintain positive vibes throughout the day. As I’m more spiritual, when I meditate I like to see the experience as communicating a higher power. I find that I’m able to confidently affirm my hopes, dreams and goals for the present and the future. One thing I would like to start doing is reflecting on my meditations.

Here are five reasons why I think it is very important to meditate…

  • It increases acceptance – When you mediate, you should be able to reflect on all the happenings of your day or week (whether they are good or bad). Practising acceptance is learning to avoid craving. Craving is when we long for something and longing for something that we do not have can make us incredibly unhappy. Acceptance is all about being present, accepting who you are and being happy with who you are and what is currently happening in your life.
  • It improves concentration – As a millennial, I will put my hands up and admit that I do find it very difficult to concentrate at times. There are way too many distractions on a day to day basis (work events, personal life, use of social media etc etc) and meditation allows you to take time out and clear your mind. Never feel guilty for taking 10-15 minutes to put yourself first. That’s what self care is really about!
  • It reduces stress – Year after year, stress has been cited as one of the top causes of sick days for professionals all over the world. It’s very easy to succumb to stress and unfortunately, if not managed well enough, stress can have emotional, physical and mentally destroying effects. To relieve stress through meditation, I would recommend that you focus on your breathing. Take deep, slow and calm breaths. I am a huge fan of the app Pacifica and they are some really good free meditation exercises which focus on breathing. If your not a fan of apps, then YT have a lot of videos that you may find helpful.
  • It improves sleep – It has been proven that people who meditate sleep much better than those who don’t. Meditation increases the production of serotonin (this is the hormone that regulates sleeping patterns). Sound sleep is very important for the body so if you find yourself consistently being deprived of sleep then meditation may be the key. (Have a look at the website that I shared above for meditations for sleep)
  • It increases calmness – The more you meditate, the calmer you will become. People who practice meditation are more likely to shrug off negative occurrences throughout the day. You are able to control your thought process a lot more and you definitely gain the power to pick your battles wisely.

 When it comes to meditation, I would say take your time because it’s not going to have the desired effect immediately. I meditate using YT videos from time to time and there are some I find that just don’t do it for me (and that’s o.k). Do your research too. You may find that something works for a friend but doesn’t have the same effect for you. You can also meditate with a variety of issues in mind such as: meditating for positivity, to forgive others, to make better life choices, to challenge negative thoughts etc etc.

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Thank you for reading and I hope you have enjoyed this post.

Feel free to share your meditation experiences. Do you enjoy meditating?

Did it have the effect you thought it would? 

Kel xo 

 

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How to: Managing Synthetic Hair

Hi guys,

So as promised in this post, I will be talking about synthetic hair and how you can manage it best. I am a huge fan of ‘wigging it’ (as I call it). Over the past year, I’ve found that I’ve been able to be more experimental with my hair (and it’s all down to wigs).

As a WoC, I am aware of what goes into looking for a perfect hairstyle. I think that the brand is one of the most important things as well as price, durability and also what other people say about the particular style of hair that you are interested in.

My wigs are all from Spell Beauty. I actually came across Spell Beauty by chance. I was looking for X-Pression’s Senegalese Twists in a smaller size and I messaged Outre, asking them where I could find the style in the U.K. They directed me to Spell Beauty and since then, I’ve been hooked. There’s something for everyone, no matter what you’re budget is, and all of the brands whose hair I’ve used, Sensationnel Empress Custom Lace Wigs are definitely my personal favourite.

I buy synthetic wigs because I think that, if looked after properly, you can definitely get your money’s worth. I’ve experimented with possibly every type of hair colour (black, dark brown, brown and most recently, red). With synthetic wigs, it’s all about how you care for them. With all wigs, you should treat them like they are your own hair.

IMG_6263So I’m going to share some tips with you on how I care for my synthetic wigs…

  1. Don’t be afraid to wash your wig – With most hair brands, there are washing instructions on the back of the package. They are there for a reason so don’t be afraid to follow them. Do not put your synthetic hair/wig on the heater to dry as this will ruin the hair instantly and you won’t be able to use it. What I like to do is swish my wig in some cool water with a small amount of ACV (apple cider vinegar) in it and then I hang it to dry.
  2. Embrace heat (to a minimum) – I think the biggest con as far as synthetic hair is concerned is that you can’t apply too much heat (because this will ruin the hair) but some brands have hair that is heat friendly (180 degrees and below). So you can curl or straighten your hair to keep it looking fresher for longer. When I tong or straighten my wigs, I will always use a bit of spray afterwards just so the hair doesn’t have that sticky ‘just been straightened or curled’ look.
  3. Maintenance is key – When you aren’t wearing your wigs, keep them in a safe place. Make sure they are covered in a pouch or a net. Try not to throw your wigs left, right and centre, especially if you’re wearing synthetic hair. They won’t last.
  4. Research – I think it’s so important to do your research because ideally you want your wig to last as long as possible. I used wigs from a brand called Trendsetter and after three weeks, the hair started to shed and the quality just took a bad hit so I had to buy another one (and the wig was £35!). I’m actually glad that I found the Sensationnel Empress range because the wigs are reasonably priced and the quality is amazing. The only thing I have to do on receipt of the wig is remove hair from the part and add a bit of concealer to give it that natural look.
  5. Don’t be afraid of oil – you can use a leave in conditioner and a bit of spray on your hair. I like to use Mazuri’s Leave In Conditioner on my synthetic wigs when they need to be refreshed. I use a spray from the same brand to give the hair a bit of shine.
  6. Don’t judge by price – You can buy a synthetic wig for £50 and after you’ve worn it once, you can have issues with it. You could later buy one for £25 and it can be the most amazing wig you’ve ever owned. Don’t discriminate when it comes to price.

The reason why I wanted to do this post is because there is a bit of stigma surrounding synthetic hair and I don’t really think it should exist. Some women keep their wigs for 3 months while others can keep theirs for a year and a half. I would say that it’s nice to also alternate between styles because if you wear the same wig day in, day out you will need to probably wash it every week just to ensure the quality of the hair remains good.

I’m going to share details of the wigs I am wearing in the picture below:

Picture 3 (top right hand corner) Empress Custom Lace Wig (Straight) – £29.99

Picture 4 (top left hand corner) Empress Custom Lace Wig (Bohemian) – £29.99

Picture 5 (middle picture, second row) Instant Fashion Wig (Couture Maylene, colour: DRBG) – £20.99

Picture 6 (last picture, right hand side, second row) Instant Fashion Wig (Couture Elena, colour: F1B/30) – £19.99 

The lovely team at Spell Beauty are offering It’s Kelle’s Space readers 10% off their first order – Use code WELCOME 10.

Have you worn a synthetic hair wig? What did you think? Are there any brands that you prefer? How do you make sure your synthetic hair wigs last? I’d love to hear some of your thoughts.

Kel xo 

 

 

 

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The Three Essential Oils You Need in Your Skincare Routine Right Now

If you follow me on Twitter (@Kelle_S6), you know that I’m either going on about essential oils or having a conversation with someone about them. In recent years, essential oils have definitely been having a moment (and rightly so, they are amazing!). Some of you may already know what they are but the rest of you may be thinking ‘What on earth is an essential oil?’ 

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Essential oils are the highly concentrated version of the natural oil in plants. Once created, through a process called distillation, the essential oil will have the characteristic fragrance and properties of the plant from which it was extracted.

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Before you decide to invest in an essential oil, I would highly recommend that you do some research. In this post, I will be focusing on using essential oils as part of your skincare routine but there are essential oils that can help cure colds, sore throats, tummy aches and alleviate stress relief. It is important to find out what works for you….

The first essential oil that I think has amazing skincare benefits is lemon essential oil. I have been using it for about four-five months because I was really struggling with managing my oily skin. I read something about lemon oil being great for reducing excess sebum (sebum is a substance produced by the sebaceous glands). I started to put two drops of lemon oil with my moisturiser (in the day and night) and I noticed that my skin was a lot less shiny than it used to be. My pores were tightened and my spots had started to clear.

If you are using an essential oil on your skin, please make sure you are either mixing it with a carrier oil (such as avocado oil or coconut oil) or your moisturiser. Try one drop mixed in with your moisturiser if it’s your first time using this particular oil.

Lemon Essential Oil (£6.79, Fresh Skin at Amazon, 100ml)

The next essential oil that I just love is lavender essential oil. I actually got introduced to lavender essential oil by accident. I was going through a really difficult time personally and I was having trouble sleeping. I went to my local H&B store and was introduced to a Lavender spray. I used this spray and for the first few nights, It seemed to work really well, after that it didn’t. I decided that I wanted something a bit stronger so that’s when I started using lavender oil. I used to put 2 drops on the inside of both my wrists and I’d also massage it onto my neck (just to relax). When it was time for me to go to sleep, I would put a few drops on my pillow. I never knew that lavender had so many skincare benefits….

I do suffer from acne (especially when my time of the month approaches) so whenever I find myself getting one too many spots, I put some lavender oil on a cotton pad and dab it on the spots. When I wake up the next morning, it’s not even there. I have a confession to make… one thing I do when I’m really annoyed by the presence of a spot is try to pop it before it’s ready and sometimes when I do, this leaves a wound on my face. I dab some lavender oil onto the wound and within a few days, it heals completely

Lavender Essential Oil (£6.79, Fresh Skin at Amazon, 100ml)

The last essential oil I am going to rave about is tea tree oil. When I run out of wipes (and believe me this happens because they get used up so quickly), I use one part of tea tree oil with three parts of water to remove my makeup. As tea tree oil is an astringent, it is very strong so a little bit is just enough to do what you want it to do. I loved how clear it left my skin and my pores were definitely minimised. If I had to choose between tea tree and lemon oil however, I would choose lemon oil. I think it works more instantly and when you’re on the go, this is what you need.

Tea Tree Pure Essential Oil (£6.79, Fresh Skin at Amazon, 100ml)

If you introduce anything to your skincare regime in 2018, then it needs to be essential oils. They have so many benefits and uses, they are decently priced and (if used well) can last up to six months.

I’ve written about the essential oils that work best for me but as I said earlier, please don’t be a stranger to research. Find out what works for your skin type, personality or ailment(s).

I’m also going to stress again that if you do use an essential oil, make sure you are mixing it with a carrier oil. Coconut, avocado and jojoba oil are the most popular ones but look for another if you don’t like the scent or feel of those ones. 

Start with one drop of your chosen essential oil and then two when your skin gets used to it (especially if you are applying it on your face).

All of the essential oils I use are from Fresh Skin Beauty 

Do you use essential oils? Are you new to essential oils? How are you finding them so far if you are? Leave your thoughts/comments/questions below.

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Handling Betrayal and Disappointment: A 4 Tip Guide

Nobody likes to be let down by other people but unfortunately, in life, it happens.

It’s always after the experience has come to light or towards the end of the year that we reflect on all the hurt that we have experienced due to the actions of another. It’s never easy but in addition to healing from the pain, we also have to look within and think about what the particular experience has taught us about who we are and how we can handle our personal relationships/friendships better in the future.

In 2017, I have had two very deep experiences of betrayal and it came from two people who I never thought would hurt me. It took time and I had to do a lot of soul searching. Soul searching and reflecting isn’t always a beautiful experience. You will find out some unpleasant things about yourself too but at the end, you will come out a lot stronger and better than you were before…

My first tip to handling betrayal or any other disappointment in your life is…

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  • Don’t blame yourself  – We are all guilty of this! As soon as we discover someone has done us wrong, we look at ourselves and start questioning all areas of our character – Was I not interesting enough? How could I not have known sooner? We have all done this and we need to stop. As you get older, unfortunately, there will be people around you who let you down. As humans, we are in control of our being: our character, our surroundings, our values, our likes/dislikes. Our behavioural patterns are imprinted in every thing we do. It is highly unlikely that anything we could do would stop an individual from causing you pain and disappointment. Understand that we all have choices to make – and if someone who has caused you pain is unwilling to be accountable for their actions, do not let it get to you. Thank the creator for the lesson, know that you are made exactly how He wants you to be and keep it moving.

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  • Think about what you have learnt from the experience – Every experience teaches us something (whether it is good or bad). Don’t be the kind of person who refuses to gather lessons from experiences – you are doing yourself no favours and if you find yourself in a similar situation again, you won’t be able to see right from wrong. A easy way you can weigh out the good from the bad is by journalling, talking to somebody who you trust or even having a meditation session (YT has really lovely meditation videos that you can use to support you). Once you are aware of what you have learnt from your tough period, you can start putting these lessons into practice. For example: if you feel that you are too open with people you barely know too soon, then maybe turn your focus onto spending time with the friends that you already have. Other friendships will come when the time is right. Also, never feel that you have to force friendships. Be yourself, love yourself and the right people will always find you. We weren’t created to be the same so don’t let anything or anyone deter you from what makes you YOU!

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  • Make a firm decision – are they in or out of your life?. Keeping an open mind is key and some people who have been betrayed or disappointed by someone that they care sincerely about may find it in their hearts to forgive – others do not. But this decision lies in your (the one who has been betrayed) hands. When thinking about whether to let someone in or not, take your time. You can’t make a decision a day after. As time passes, you may feel better or you may not. I would also recommend talking to the person. This will also help you make a decision as to whether or not you wish to continue the friendship/relationship. If the person seems open to addressing their faults, perhaps there’s an opportunity to repair your fractured relationship/friendship but if they don’t then perhaps, it’s a sign letting you know completely where you stand. Never hold onto the anger from a betrayal/disappointment for too long – the only person you end up hurting is yourself.

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  • Seek help if you need to – I’ve said this openly on my Twitter (on my break up tips thread – @Kelle_S6) and I’ll say it openly on here. If you need to seek help in order to be able to handle and accept certain things that are happening in your life – DO IT! I am incredibly proud and happy to be living in a time where millennials are understanding the importance of looking after their mental health. Your mental health starts with you and if you are not coping – identify it for what it is! Nobody should judge you. We have all been hurt and there’s no denying of the emotional, mental and physical impact negative experiences can have on the mind, body and soul. If you do decide to go to therapy then ask your GP to refer you to someone you can talk to once or twice a week. There’s always the option of seeking CBT if you think that would be more suitable for you. 

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I hope these tips that I have shared will help some of you handle betrayal and disappointment better. If you have your own tips/strategies for dealing with negative life experiences then please share them – I’d love to have a read.

What I would like to say to you all is never lose sleep over someone who has wronged you. Sometimes the creator really does give His strongest battles to His strongest soldiers. Once we are aware of what we won’t stand for in life, we are able to build stronger, healthier and mutually beneficial relationships.

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