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Issa Weekend Look!

Hi guys, welcome to my space.

 I would like to share products I used to create a girly and glamorous weekend look.

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Foundation: IMAN Cosmetics Second to None Cream to Powder Foundation in Earth 3 

I’ve been using products from IMAN Cosmetics for about two years now. My fave foundations are the Cream to Powder (above) and the Stick Foundation. Cream to Powder is really easy to apply and it makes my skin look flawless.

Eyeshadow: NYX Hot Singles: Colour HS24 Dayclub

I bought my second Hot Singles eyeshadow last weekend and it needs to stop there! I really love this colour. The brown-gold hues really compliment my skintone.

Setting Powder: Sacha Cosmetics Buttercup Setting Powder

I’ve been using this for over a year now. I’m being really frugal with my setting powder right now because it’s sold out every wear. This setting powder is really good if you have oily/combination skin. It really does keep your makeup in place.

Lips: Revlon Superlustrous Lipstick in the shade Naughty Plum 

The latest addition to my lipstick collection. I love the colour, its easy to apply. What else can I say? I love a good lippy!

Concealer: LA Girl Pro Conceal HD High Definition Concealer in the shade Chestnut

LA Girl Pro Concealers are a makeup must have. If you don’t own one then I suggest you get one. I use mine to cover my hyperpigmentation and clean up my brows.

Eyeliner: Revolution HD Pro Smoky Eyeliner (waterproof) 

This eyeliner is amazing. I love how pigmented the colour is. You can also blend it if you want a fuller effect.

Mascara: Revlon Mega Multiplier Mascara: Blackest Black

This mascara really lengthens my lashes and it didn’t smudge.

Brows: Revlon Colorstay Brow Pencil in the shade Dark Brown and Revlon Colorstay Brow Mousse in the shade Dark Brown 

These two products are my new brow staples!

Face Powder: Black Up Two Way Cake in the shade TWO4

I can’t survive without this powder. Although its pricey, the two way cake keeps skin matte for hours and it also contains Vitamins A and E (which stop ageing).

Setting Spray: Urban Decay All Nighter Setting Spray 

Since I was introduced to this marvellous wonder last year, I can’t get enough. I always make sure I have one at home and one in my bag. The travel size version of this spray is £10.00. All you need is two-three sprays to keep your makeup in place.

(My crochet braids are X-Pression Senegalese Twist Large 24” Pre Looped and they are from Spell Beauty.)

I hope you have enjoyed this quick post!

What are your go to products for a weekend look? 

Don’t forget to like, subscribe…and tell your friends about Kelle’s Space.

Kel xo

 

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Revlon’s Super Lustrous Lipstick: A Review

Hi guys, welcome to my space.

Today, I will be reviewing Revlon’s Super Lustrous Lipstick. Hailed by the cosmetic giants as the ‘world’s most iconic lipstick’, I couldn’t wait to find out whether this lipstick is truly a must have product.

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This lipstick actually comes in four different finishes – pearl, matte, creme and sheer. 

I have oily/combination skin so I prefer matte lipsticks as they take attention away from any impending or existing shine. I was a little hesitant to review shades from the Creme range but as a brand, Revlon have a very extensive range of cosmetics and their product range is innovative and inclusive so I’m actually happy to give these Creme shades a try and let you know what I think…

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I was sent three shades: 044 – Bare Affair (Swatch 3), 045 – Naughty Plum (Swatch 1) and 046 – Bombshell Red (Swatch 2).

All three shades are new.

Bare Affair is a very light pink shade, Naughty Plum is a pinkish-purple shade and Bombshell Red is a pinkish red.

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When I applied the lipstick, I noticed how pigmented it was. With some lipsticks, you have to constantly keep applying them to even see a bit of colour but that wasn’t the case with this one. The shades are lovely. I usually apply my lipstick while my setting powder is…setting (strange, I know) and what I like to look for in any lipstick (even my everyday ones) is a bold and vibrant shade. What I also liked is that it was very easy to apply and you don’t need a lot of product for a full application which is great as far as value for money is concerned. I predict that these lipsticks will last for about 6 months (if not more).

The unfortunate thing was that the lipsticks didn’t last as long as I hoped they would.After I had eaten my lunch, I had noticed that most of the lipstick had rubbed off.

On a positive note, I do love the silky, smooth and hydrating formula. Personally, the shades I preferred were Naughty Plum and Bombshell Red. I think Bare Affair would be more suitable for women with pale and fair skin (I wasn’t crazy about the way it looked so I haven’t posted a picture).

Light pink shades tend not to suit me unless I apply a little bit on the centre of my lips with a darker shade on the outside but I wouldn’t want to spend an endless amount of time trying to get the right lipstick shade when there are so many other colours that easily work for me. Naughty Plum and Bombshell Red really compliment my skin tone.

I can actually see myself wearing Naughty Plum on a daily basis and the latter on evenings/nights out. The good thing is that this lipstick actually comes in four different finishes: creme, pearl, matte and sheer so there is something for everyone.

 

 

L to R: Shade 046 Bombshell Red and Shade 045 Naughty Plum

I would recommend purchasing this lipstick because it is great value for money, its buildable, highly pigmented and the moisturising and Vitamin E benefits are a huge plus. Vitamin E helps to maintain the soft and youthful texture of your lips. 

I’m going to summarise the Pros and the Cons…

Pros: great value, easy to apply, moisturising, vitamin E infused, highly pigmented, great formula, shades are inclusive and fashionable

Cons: creme lipstick isn’t mattifying, Bare Affair shade is too light and doesn’t compliment my skin tone (personal opinion), not long lasting (comes off easily)

I hope you enjoyed this review.

You can read more about the Revlon Super Lustrous Lipstick here and it is available to purchase from BootsSuperdrug, and  Feel Unique .

Do let me know what you think and don’t forget to like and subscribe as I will be posting another Revlon review within the week so keep your eyes peeled!

Kel xo 

 

 

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Diversity For Women of Colour: Is this a never ending battle?

Hi guys, welcome back to my space.

This post is a collaboration between me and Charlotte from Memoirs and Musings.

We are both very passionate about addressing the lack of diversity within the beauty industry. In this post, we will be praising the brands that we feel are getting it right and exploring why we think some beauty brands are still failing to provide a diverse product offering.

Before we start, we are going to reveal what our fave makeup products are:

Kelle’s Beauty Essentials

Foundation: Black Up CC Cream Multi Action (Complexion Correcting Foundation). 

Lipstick: NYX Professional Makeup Matte Lipstick  in the shade Maison. 

 Mascara: NYX Super Luscious Volume and Length Mascara

Charlotte’s Beauty Essentials

Foundation: Nars All Day Weightless Luminous Foundation (My shade is Tahoe or Macao when I have a tan). I’m NC45 in Mac for reference. 

Lipstick: Mac Spirit is one I have re-bought time after time.

Highlighter: I can’t choose one so I’m gonna choose three… the Make Up Revolution baked highlighter in ‘Golden Lights’ (£3 and looks AMAZING on every skintone), the Fenty Matchstix in Sinamon and Benefit Watts Up. 

1) Before the launch of Fenty Beauty, were you aware of any beauty brands for WoC in the market? 

Kelle: Pre Fenty Beauty, these are the beauty brands for WoC that I was aware of:

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In addition to the above, I was also aware of brands such as MAC Cosmetics, NARS and Sleek Make Up.

Char: Fashion Fair, LA Girl, Nars, Mac, Black Up, Iman et al. 

2) Why do you think the beauty industry is ignoring its biggest spenders?

Kelle: The biggest problem I think the beauty industry has is processing and implementing customer feedback. The majority of beauty brands are very happy to go along with trends or emulate their competitors in fear due to their desire to maintain their relevance. As consumers, I think that we all deserve to gain an insight into how brands we spend our money on are using sales figures and feedback from focus groups to better inform their product development process. 

According to the Office of National Statistics, the black and mixed race population will reach 35% of the total population by 2035. The IPA (Institute of Practitioners in Advertising) estimates that WoC spend £4.8 billion on products and treatments! The IPA have also found that WoC spend six times more than their Caucasian counterparts on their hair…

Char: Blatant ignorance to be honest. 

Kelle: I couldn’t agree more.

Char: I always wonder what if I’m away for the weekend and I forget my foundation, if I pop down to the local drugstore and they don’t have my shade what can I do? Nothing. It makes you feel helpless in a way. Beauty should be inclusive not exclusive. The fact that my skin colour exists should be enough for it to be available. I do understand that if I’m going to be in a place for example, Sweden, that darker shades may not be available but why has this become the norm. I’m glad I live in an culturally diverse place like London where I can easily get my shade if I need to, but for those with deeper skintones, it’s not easy. The more sparesly populated an area is, the less likely they are to have beauty products for WOC.

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Kelle: Exactly! Beauty brands are playing it safe. They want to stick to what they know and as far as they are concerned, WoC can either look for what suits them or take their money somewhere else. With WoC having such a strong spending power, the world needs to stop and take note. Beauty brands just can’t afford to keep thinking this way. 

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3) What do you think beauty brands should be doing in order to improve on/maintain their offerings for WoC?

Kelle: Firstly, brands should be placing quality over quantity. I’ve walked into shops/department stores and I’m naturally inclined to check out brands that cater to WoC.

I have noticed that there are brands who will launch a new product with an offering of 10 different shades/colours and 5 out of 10 of those shades will all look the same. It’s pointless. I’m actually not alone in my views. 70% of Black and Asian women feel that high street stores don’t cater for their beauty needs (Superdrug, 2016)

Char: 70%?! That’s too high. In my opinion, brands need to research their customer base and find out exactly what consumers want rather than assuming. Yes I’m throwing a little shade, but certain brands need to stop assuming that we want grey flashback in photos… really? …

Kelle: And from the looks of things, even some of our favourite celebrities seem to have fallen victim to this issue…

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4) Do you think that beauty influencers of colour should be fronting beauty campaigns more often?

Char: Of course, BUT it shouldn’t be because brands or companies need to fill a certain quota aka tokenism. It should be a natural fit and should feel inclusive rather than exclusive. Lately, there was an image from a particular brand *cough* YSL, that showed 3 arms of the three different skintones… and the darkest shade…oh boy! 

I mean look:

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Kelle: The fact that this is happening in 2018… YSL actually had the audacity to swatch their lighter shades on their darkest model…who approved this?

Char: If these brands had an influencer like me for example (I’m not bigging myself up here in the slightest) consulting them, they would realise this is all kinds of wrong. Why would you photograph shades on a deeper skin toned arm where even the very darkest doesn’t match. Get it together YSL.  And since writing this post, Tarte, another popular beauty brand released their new foundation shades. I’ll let this photo do the talking: 

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Kelle: Do these brands not know that women of colour actually use foundation? The ignorance is unbelievable. Tarte used to work very closely with Make Up Shayla. I wonder if she will continue to endorse their products once she sees this…

Char: What’s promising is influencers like Jackie Aina is working with Too Faced to develop and release darker shades of their Born This Way foundation. If only other brands would take note…

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Kelle: It’s actually refreshing to see a brand such as Too Faced teaming up with a darker skinned blogger because some brands recruit mixed race or fair skinned influencers for their campaigns because they have more marketing power. I have noticed that when dark skinned bloggers front beauty campaigns or launch collections, the offering is quite limited (e.g: eyeshadow palettes or highlighters). It’s good to see Too Faced taking a step to change things. To all the brands out there: Take note and let WoC do more!

5) Which products for WoC would you like to see improved/modified and why?

Kelle: I’d like to see foundation offerings improved. There is still a long way to go. Skin types, skin concerns and undertones need to be taken into consideration in order for a real difference to be made. I believe that every WoC needs to be catered to. Times have changed and more brands need to wake up. I think eye shadow palettes need to modified. Personally, I play it safe and stick to palettes with brown shades because I’ve yet to find a brand that caters to WoC completely. This can also depend on preference I guess.

Char: I think we’re finally starting to get foundations, concealers and base products right. There is more options available than ever before and brands are realising than there are more undertones than red or ashy. However, its not just base products that still need to be modified, what about blushes, eyeshadows and bronzers? Whenever I buy an eyeshadow palette, I always find that at least 3/4 of the colours are not for me, I can’t even use the lightest one as a base or brow bone highlight without it looking like the queen of ashiness. Thankfully there are brands like Juvia’s Place, Beauty Bakery who are formulating products right from the get go. 

Kelle: I agree about eyeshadows. I think they do need some looking into. I’ve yet to find a palette with bold, pigmented shades that can compliment my collection. It’s good to see Juvia’s Place filling in that gap in the market but such palettes should be instantly accessible…

6) Which beauty brands/companies do you think are getting it right?

Kelle: The brands that I think are getting it right are IMAN Cosmetics and NARS, Black Up, Lancome, Fenty Beauty, Fashion Fair and Anastasia Beverly Hills. Because I have a yellow undertone, my biggest foundation concern is my face looking red while the rest of me doesn’t.

Char: Nars, Mac, Lancome, Fenty Beauty and Anastasia Beverly Hills. I also have to shout out to some old school brands like Iman and Fashion Fair. Fenty Beauty came out with 40 shades as standard, from very fair to very deep. Some brands launch a new concealer or foundation and have one or two shades for us and I’m probably as dark as they go (*cough* Tarte). What if I get a tan? Then it will be a complete no go for me. It’s not even just the base products like concealers and foundations; it’s eyeshadows, bronzers and blushes too. 

Kelle: Fenty Beauty definitely broke the mould, I agree but Fashion Fair and IMAN did it first. Maybe, WoC will start turning their attention to the old school brands who clearly don’t have a problem giving the customer what they want…

Char: It’s a possibility…

Kelle: Imagine a world where a WoC can walk into any beauty or cosmetics store and find products that were actually created with her in mind? 

Char: It’s time to make this happen and we won’t stop until we are given the recognition we deserve.

Kelle: Absolutely!

7) What do you predict for the future of the beauty industry in 5 or 10 years time?   

Kelle: If the battle for diversity within the beauty industry persists (and it should!), I believe that in the next five to 10 years, there will be more beauty brands launching for sure. However, we (WoC, influencers, bloggers, vloggers, writers et al) need to work together as a collective in order to move forward. With cooperative effort,the beauty industry can really be an open place for us all.

Char: I reckon in the next 5 years we’ll be seeing lots more indie brands pop up over the place with products, In 10 years time, I can’t really say what will happen but it will be interesting to observe and watch this industry evolve. 

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I hope you’ve all enjoyed reading this post. 

Don’t forget to tell your friends about Kelle’s Space and Memoirs and Musings (Char).

And don’t forget to like and subscribe 🙂

Kel & Char xo 

 

 

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Timeless Skincare Tips

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In this post, I’m going to be talking about skincare, with a specific focus on the things that have really helped me improve the condition of my skin. Clearing up my skin has been a work in progress and as mentioned in my last post, my biggest skin concern is hyper pigmentation. 

Here are some of the things I do in order to keep my skin clear…

Cleanse, tone, moisturise – On a day to day basis our skin goes through so much so this is very important (especially if you wear makeup). Cleansers remove dirt and oil from the skin which significantly reduce your chances of getting spots, blemishes and blackheads. Toning the skin leaves it hydrated and also minimises the appearance of pores. People with oily skin (such as myself) are advised to use a toner due to the fact that their pores may be larger in size. Some toners contain harsh ingredients so be sure to do your research if you choose to invest in one. Moisturising stops your skin from getting irritated and flaky. It also boosts the skin’s hydration levels and slows down the ageing process.

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Drink water – Yes, yes, yes we heard this almost every time in 2017 whenever someone was asked what their secret was but it has been scientifically proven that drinking water has many skin benefits such as improving your complexion and making you look younger.  

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I drink two bottles of water a day. This is equivalent to about three glasses. Recently, I’ve started to drink three bottles of water a day. I do want to improve on this and start drinking the daily requirement, which is eight glasses but either way, I’m seeing a real change in the way my skin looks.

You are what you eat – I also eat foods that are proven to clear skin such as leafy greens. I love broccoli and kale in particular (I always try and have a serving of vegetables with my meals). I also love oily fish such as salmon and mackerel and my favourite fruits are raspberries and blueberries. I ate raspberries so much last summer and I noticed a few weeks later that my skin had a nice glow to it.

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Introduce an oil or serum into your skin care routine – even if you’re naturally blessed with good skin, I do recommend introducing a serum or oil into your routine. Palmer’s Skin Therapy Oil is my go to face oil. It is pricey at £10.49 but the oil contains a powerful blend of ten essential oils including Vitamin C and Retinol.

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Moderate consumption of salty and oily foods – This is something I struggle with, I will be completely honest with you. I’m from Cameroon, West Africa and I’m sure other Africans will be able to relate to this. Whether it’s dishes such as Egusi or Eru (A Cameroonian dish), salt and oil are always involved (the positives of both being that they have vegetable in them). In addition to this, I try to stay away from chips, burgers and all that stuff. I don’t follow the 5:2 diet or anything like that, I just watch what I eat, that’s all.

When you moisturise, pay attention to the area under your eyes – Especially if you wear makeup. The skin around this area is thinner and shows signs of aging more quickly than other areas on the face.

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Exfoliate – minimum of twice a week – I exfoliate three-four times a week. A lot of women are under the perception that exfoliating is something you do after you’ve showered but you can actually add a little bit of your scrub to your shower gel/body wash and that still counts. I’m currently using a body scrub from Palmer’s to exfoliate my skin. 

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I try not to stress which is really hard because I work in the education sector. Every day is stressful. To prevent environmental havoc on my skin, I do a facial once or twice a week. If I don’t use Indian Healing Facial Clay, I use my Purifying Neem Mask.

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I want to show you guys a before and after picture of my skin. The picture on the left was taken in 2014 and the second picture was taken earlier this year. It’s clear to see the difference in my complexion in comparison to the picture on the right. I was just using any products I could find, not ones that were actually suited to my skin type.

I hope this post has inspired you to think about your skincare journey and also the kind of products that you use or would like to use on your skin.

I’m always interested in hearing your views/opinions so feel free to comment.

Also, do let me know what you’d like to see more of on I.K.S in 2018.

Kel xo

 

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My Skincare Routine (2018)

Hi everyone, 

First of all, Happy New Year! I hope 2018 brings you everything you want and more.

Yesterday, I wrote about my hopes, dreams and vows for 2018, check it out.

In my first post of 2018, I’m going to be sharing my skin care routine with you all. Over the past year, I have noticed that my skin has dramatically improved. The most challenging skin issue I have is hyper pigmentation. I have the most stubborn dark spots but on a positive note, with the help of the products I am currently using, my skin has started to clear up.

In addition to my desire for clearer skin, I also want it to look healthy, bright and firm throughout 2018 (claiming this!)

My Skincare Routine

When I’ve had my shower in the morning, I wash my face with Dudu Osun African Black Soap.

I’ve been using this soap to cleanse my face for about three months now and I absolutely love it. My skin looks a lot clearer and I’ve noticed that my skin isn’t as oily as it used to be which is always a good thing!

Three to four times a week, I exfoliate. The scrub that I use is the St Ives Even and Bright Pink Lemon and Mandarin Orange Scrub.

There’s a page on Twitter called Melanin Mamis and they have an amazing skin care and hair care thread and this scrub kept being mentioned by a number of tweeters so I decided to read some reviews and give it a try. My skin is softer and brighter and I also like that its made with 100% natural exfoliants so it doesn’t feel too tough like some other brand’s exfoliators do.

After I’ve exfoliated, I use a flannel to pat my face dry. Once or twice a week, I will apply my Himalaya Herbals Purifying Neem Mask. It’s perfect for normal to oily skin and you only need to leave it on for 10 minutes. You do feel a tightening effect but don’t worry, that’s just your pores shrinking. There is also a scrub in the range that’s quite good as well and both products contain Turmeric, which is known for its skin healing properties.

I use a cotton pad to tone my skin with Thayers Witch Hazel Rose Petal Alcohol Free Toner. Whenever I apply this toner, my skin feels soft and looks refreshed. I’ll be the first to admit that for a toner, it is quite pricey but all you really need is a pea sized amount (a little bit goes a long way, trust me). Mine has lasted for over 5 months which is pretty impressive. Another thing that I love about this toner is it does a fantastic job at getting rid of dirt on the skin. If you are looking for a toner to invest in, I definitely recommend this one.

Once my skin is toned, I moisturise. There’s a brand by the name of Irie Rock and they create products specifically for women with oily/combination skin. The Tea Tree and Witch Hazel Replenishing Facial Moisturizer is free from parabens, mineral oils and artificial fragrances. With oily skin, its important to use a moisturiser that is as light as possible as too many ingredients applied at once can provoke the production of sebum (what causes shine). 

One skin care lesson I have learnt this year is: always use a serum. Simply cleansing, toning and moisturising is not enough (even if you have been blessed with amazing skin). Serums deliver many anti aging skin benefits and ensure your skin glows all year round. I’d recommend a serum with any of these two ingredients: Vitamin C and Vitamin E. These Vitamins are your skin’s best friend. I live for Palmer’s Skin Therapy Face Oil

Within weeks, my complexion had started to improve and when I told people my actual age, no-one could believe me. The serum is definitely responsible for this because I’ve always been told I looked older than my years.

I’ll apply two drops of lemon oil on my face, ensuring it absorbed into my skin as this helps to prevent your skin getting shiny throughout the day. I talk more about the amazing benefits of lemon oil in this post.

I have the same routine for the evening when I get ready for bed. The only thing that is different is that I apply Liquid Vitamin on my lips (not pictured) to keep them soft and moisturised.

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This skin care routine has really worked for me this past year. In the past, I’ve always followed the crowd when it came to buying particular products but I’m proud to say that I’ve found products that I think work well for me and the needs of my skin.

I hope you have enjoyed the first post of 2018. All links to products are in the post.

Let me know what you think and also feel free to share your skin care routine.

Kel xo 

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2018 Is Almost Here!

Wow!

I can’t believe that 2017 is almost over! 

This year has literally flown by. I’m looking forward to what 2018 has to offer. 

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When the end of a year approaches, it’s natural to go into reflection mode. I’ve been reflecting in my head over the past few hours, just thinking about where I was at the beginning of the year and where I am now. I can honestly say thank the Lord that I am not where I used to be. God has come through for me in so many ways. I’m thankful for my gains and I’m also thankful for my losses. Millennials definitely experience a difficult time taking and accepting L’s (losses). I like to think that each L teaches me something about myself and how I can turn that negative into a positive.

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As for the things I would like to achieve in 2018, I have given myself 5 personal goals. I’m not going to share them as of yet but I am excited to do what needs to be done in order to succeed. Last year, I had way too many goals but for this coming year, I’ve taken a realistic approach. I’m aiming to have small goals with a magnificent impact.

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In 2018, I vow to:

  • Be disciplined
  • Continue to work hard in my profession
  • Love myself and practice self care on a regular basis
  • Take time out and not feel guilty for doing so
  • Build personal relationships (friends, family etc)
  • Immediately turn my back on any situation that doesn’t honour or serve me
  • Increase my dopeness
  • Secure the bag
  • Travel more
  • Smile!

I’m coming for everything that’s mine in 2018.

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I’d like to take this opportunity to wish all It’s Kelle’s Space readers a Happy New Year. Thank you so much for your support. 

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May 2018 be everything you want it to be and more.

Do you have any 2018 vows? 

What are you going to do to ensure it’s your best year yet? 

Kel xo

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Cohabition: Things To Consider

Hey guys,

So, cohabitation is something that I have always wanted to discuss. For those of you who want it defined in layman’s terms, cohabitation is when two people, who are not married, live together and have a sexual relationship (with the exception of couples who are practising celibacy of course).

I cohabited for a very brief period and during this time I learnt so much about myself (good and let’s say, areas for improvement). It is true what they say by the way, you never know someone until you live with them and I should also add that you never know yourself until you are responsible for the upkeep and care of yourself and your partner too.

If you are thinking about cohabiting, especially if you are courting, here are my words of wisdom…

  • Be ready – If your relationship isn’t healthy, mutually respectful and fulfilling, DO NOT live together. Take it from me, when more responsibilities are thrown into the mix  and the relationship isn’t stable, it will push the two of you further apart a lot quicker. Don’t adopt the mindset of ‘If I do this, maybe he’ll’ or If I did this more, maybe she’ll’. Accept all situations for what they are. I think this is one of the biggest problems we have as millennials, some of our relationships last a lot longer than they should because of this instant desire for commitment. 

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  • Enjoy your relationship beforehand – I have heard countless stories about couples who cohabit way too early into their relationship and have so many problems soon after. The first year of a relationship should be all about getting to know one another, sharing experiences, allowing your partner into your world, building a beautiful bond. You shouldn’t need to be worrying about rent and bills and who’s going to do the food shopping on a weekly basis. In my personal opinion, I don’t think that a major commitment should be made within the first year of a relationship. I guess some people would disagree because of the ‘Why wait when you know?’ ideology (fair enough).

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  • Find a medium – always ensure you are able to return to your happy place after a disagreement. The worst thing a cohabiting couple can do is refuse to let things go. Can you imagine coming home to someone who can’t let Tuesday’s minor argument go and its Friday already? All I’m simply saying is when you live with somebody, you have to pick your battles. Yes, you will argue at times, it’s inevitable but know which arguments to talk out and which ones to let go.

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  • Honesty IS the best policy – do you share the same values, hopes etc for the future? This is SO important and it’s only through getting to know your partner and spending quality time with them that you will gain an understanding of their values, hopes, dreams. Don’t be afraid to be open and don’t go along with things you’re not 100% about just to make your partner happy. In the moment, it may seem fine but other time, you may realise that you didn’t stay true to yourself and resentment may start to kick in.

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  • Can you honestly imagine spending your life with your partner? – Some young couples don’t realise that cohabitation is a test. It’s a test of what life would be like if you were a married couple. I think that some couples move in with each other and just adopt an ‘I’ll see how this goes’ approach. Personally, I think this is wrong. If you can’t cohabit successfully, then your chances of having a happy marriage will significantly reduce. On the other hand, if you are able to pinpoint and address the reasons why living together is such a challenge, then you may be able to move forward.

In order to successfully cohabit with the person you love, you have to be ready. There is no question about it. Take time to really understand what you are getting into and don’t be afraid to share your hopes and expectations. Remember that this is a new experience for the both of you and be patient, understanding and loving. To transition from having your own space to sharing it with someone else 24/7 can be daunting but if you have chosen the right person to settle down with, the benefits far outweigh the cons.

I hope you enjoyed this post. Let me know what you think about cohabiting with a partner. Is it something you’ve done? Is it something you want to do in 2018? 

Kel xo

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2017: My Year In Review

Hi guys,

In this post, I am going to be reviewing my 2017. I’ve decided to do a Q and A style post as I feel that this year has been quite reflective so I really want to talk in detail about how I found 2017 in addition to sharing my plans, goals and hopes for 2018.

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If you had to describe your 2017 in three words, what would they be?

Reflective, Powerful, Refreshing

I’ve chosen these words because at the beginning of the year, I was in a very bad place. I was struggling emotionally and mentally with the breakdown of my long term relationship. As I thought about the fact that I am fast approaching the end of my 20’s, I really had to take the time to get to know myself again and be 100% transparent about what I expect from individuals, and not just individuals that I am involved with. It’s funny how one less than pleasant situation can suddenly make you evaluate every situation you give your energy too in life.

I definitely feel like this is the year when I gained my power back. I was able to establish myself as a professional, spend time focusing on self care, having fun with friends, travelling, just really trying to get back to myself again and I have loved every single minute of it. I’ve adopted a ‘make it through the day’ mantra and I try not to be too hard on myself because life is so short.

Through power, comes freedom. You gain a sense of self and you own it and that’s what I’ve started to do. The journey hasn’t always been smooth but once you know yourself, the sky is the limit. You feel invincible almost. I definitely have meditation to thank for this and in 2018, I will be challenging myself to meditate more (check out my post on meditation here)

What was your favourite place that you visited in 2017?

Definitely, Amsterdam! I absolutely loved ‘Dam! Whenever I travel to Europe, I never want to leave because the people are so relaxed, so calm, it’s so wonderful. I went to Amsterdam in October for a few days and I saw so many places. I wish I actually took pictures of the places I went to and the restaurants I ate in (it would have made a good post) but anyway travelling is something I definitely aspire to do more of in 2018 so watch this space!

If someone wrote a book about your year, what genre would it be?

Something along the lines of coming of age/self discovery. 2017 has been a whirlwind for me.

How did your overall outlook on life evolve?

Wow, this is a good question. From 2014-2016, I think I was very naive. I chose to see the good in everybody and everything. Life was a bunch of beautifully arranged roses as far as I was concerned but when I started to experience challenging times, my outlook on everything changed. I wasn’t sure why certain things were happening to me but now I realise that I needed that because I needed to make a swift exit from the bubble I was living very comfortably in. I believe that everyone has one life experience that will shake them and for me, losing somebody that I cared for deeply and relied so much on was it.

I think that the key to living your best life and being your best self is just to be happy…try your best to be happy. Be happy with who you are, be happy with what you have to offer and slowly, things should fall into place.

Never spend too long feeling like you are not enough. You are.

What new habits did you cultivate?

This year, I really enjoyed exercising and I did go to the gym as much as I could, but because of the demands of my career, I barely got the chance to go in the later part of the year. However, I do a home workout using my kettlebell. I love that post workout feeling and maintaining my weight is quite important to me (because I don’t have time to be buying a new wardrobe sorry).

I also learned how to take care of my natural hair. Most of the time, I wear wigs or I have a protective style in my hair but I’ve actually a adopted a haircare routine and it seems to be working because even my hairdresser said my hair has grown.

I’ve improved my culinary skills. Maybe one or two recipes will be posted in 2018. Watch Kelle’s Space.

A new habit I have formed is writing to do lists. Even when I’m at home, I will do one. I suffer from anxiety so sometimes (as anyone with anxiety knows), going through twenty things that you need to do in your head at 3000 miles per hour can cause such a headache. If I know I have a productive day ahead of me, a list is getting made and I’m ticking it off as I complete each task. This gives me the peace of mind I need.

What cool things did you create this year?

It’s Kelle’s Space!

I’m so glad that I was able to get back into blogging again. I was on Twitter one day and I found myself just tweeting about anything and everything and I thought to myself ‘ You’ve still got a lot to say Kel, start blogging again’. So I did. What I need to do next year is create a lovely backdrop so I can start filming videos and possibly move this brand to YT as well.

2017 was full of ups and it was full of downs but I’m pleased that I am still here. I’ve smiled, I’ve laughed, I’ve cried, I’ve experienced all sorts of emotions but they have all made me the woman that I am and I know that everything I experience (good or bad) will help me become the woman I am meant to be.

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I hope you have enjoyed this post and feel free to share your 2017 moments with me.

I’d love to read them.

I will share my 2018 hopes with you very soon.

Kel xo

 

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5 Reasons to Meditate

In this post, I’m going to be talking about the importance of meditation.

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I came across the practice of meditation around a year and a half ago.

Since then, I have tried my best to meditate at least twice a week. As we approach a new year, one of my resolutions is definitely to meditate a lot more than I usually do. I like to use the free guided meditations on this website. I find myself meditating usually before I go to bed because it usually takes some time for me to fall asleep (there are usually a million things going through my mind as I prepare for sleep).

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Personally, I find meditation to be quite a liberating experience. When I meditate in the morning, it sets me up for the day and I’m able to maintain positive vibes throughout the day. As I’m more spiritual, when I meditate I like to see the experience as communicating a higher power. I find that I’m able to confidently affirm my hopes, dreams and goals for the present and the future. One thing I would like to start doing is reflecting on my meditations.

Here are five reasons why I think it is very important to meditate…

  • It increases acceptance – When you mediate, you should be able to reflect on all the happenings of your day or week (whether they are good or bad). Practising acceptance is learning to avoid craving. Craving is when we long for something and longing for something that we do not have can make us incredibly unhappy. Acceptance is all about being present, accepting who you are and being happy with who you are and what is currently happening in your life.
  • It improves concentration – As a millennial, I will put my hands up and admit that I do find it very difficult to concentrate at times. There are way too many distractions on a day to day basis (work events, personal life, use of social media etc etc) and meditation allows you to take time out and clear your mind. Never feel guilty for taking 10-15 minutes to put yourself first. That’s what self care is really about!
  • It reduces stress – Year after year, stress has been cited as one of the top causes of sick days for professionals all over the world. It’s very easy to succumb to stress and unfortunately, if not managed well enough, stress can have emotional, physical and mentally destroying effects. To relieve stress through meditation, I would recommend that you focus on your breathing. Take deep, slow and calm breaths. I am a huge fan of the app Pacifica and they are some really good free meditation exercises which focus on breathing. If your not a fan of apps, then YT have a lot of videos that you may find helpful.
  • It improves sleep – It has been proven that people who meditate sleep much better than those who don’t. Meditation increases the production of serotonin (this is the hormone that regulates sleeping patterns). Sound sleep is very important for the body so if you find yourself consistently being deprived of sleep then meditation may be the key. (Have a look at the website that I shared above for meditations for sleep)
  • It increases calmness – The more you meditate, the calmer you will become. People who practice meditation are more likely to shrug off negative occurrences throughout the day. You are able to control your thought process a lot more and you definitely gain the power to pick your battles wisely.

 When it comes to meditation, I would say take your time because it’s not going to have the desired effect immediately. I meditate using YT videos from time to time and there are some I find that just don’t do it for me (and that’s o.k). Do your research too. You may find that something works for a friend but doesn’t have the same effect for you. You can also meditate with a variety of issues in mind such as: meditating for positivity, to forgive others, to make better life choices, to challenge negative thoughts etc etc.

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Thank you for reading and I hope you have enjoyed this post.

Feel free to share your meditation experiences. Do you enjoy meditating?

Did it have the effect you thought it would? 

Kel xo