A Relationship Expert Explains Why Dating Is So Hard

In this post, Josh, a relationship expert and blogger, will be talking about what he believes are the challenges of dating in 2018. Although It’s Kelle’s Space is a blog aimed at women, I think it’s refreshing to have a man’s perspective on the topic of love and relationships. I hope you all enjoy reading this post as much as I did.

Dating is hard because people are looking for perfection

One of the biggest dating challenges in this society is unrealistic expectations. I think that a lot of people want to experience the love they see in the movies and on social media and expect it to happen immediately. Some people are almost oblivious to the fact that true love is a process, not an entitlement. You cannot find or maintain great relationships, they are built over time. Unrealistic expectations make finding true love challenging because people are looking for perfection and not suitability or potential.

Dating is hard because of dating apps

Dating apps becoming more and more popular, so there’s no denying that people on the dating scene are spoilt for choice. The option to date as many people as you want without having to commit has an instant appeal. All you need to do is swipe right or click ‘like’. The fact that dating has become so trivial is definitely to blame for people feeling entitled, in my opinion. Nobody seems to actually think about what they want first, before they put themselves out there.

Dating is hard because of social media 

Too much emphasis has been placed on looks or perception, and with the rise of social media, this is only set to get worse. We live in a society that is obsessed with looks. We are constantly told how to maintain our looks and also how to improve things we are not happy about. The world is teaching us that as long as you look great on the outside, you will be fine, but whatever happened to making sure we are beautiful on the inside too? Physical attraction will always fade away so it’s important to seek substance so you can connect with someone beyond a physical level. There are ways that you can help form this connection, such as using pheromones oils designed to elicit certain responses and feelings from your date and make you appear more appealing by indicating certain traits that are attractive to the opposite sex. These can certainly help out initially until you are confident enough that the connection is there, at which point you may feel able to do without these enhancements.

Final thoughts on why dating is so hard at the moment

Finding the relationship of your dreams is possible. What you want does exist! Patience and timing are everything. Also, remember that it’s just as important for you to mirror the qualities/traits you would like in a significant other. Have something to bring to the table. We all go through different seasons in life and this is why it’s important to know what you want. You may be ready to settle but you may get a completely different vibe from the person you are dating.

You can’t hold on to anyone who doesn’t want to be held. Don’t compromise on your self worth and respect just because you want someone to lay next to at night. Actions do speak louder than words, so pay attention to what you see. The eyes don’t deceive. Commit to the person who is on the same level as you and wants the things you want in life and love. Find someone that accepts you the way you are and is willing to build something solid with you. This kind of relationship is truly worth the wait.
Waiting is never easy, whether you are single or dating, so use this period in your life to focus on being the best person you can be so when the time does come for you to settle, you are ready.

If you enjoyed this post, then do follow Josh on Twitter. He is also one half of the amazing Rants and Talks podcast.